Boomerang man: Why he’s back. Again.

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Ttsst! Ouch. Welcome the oh-so-hot LoveSujeiry to the blog, a sizzling and candid guide to all things dating with a side helping of funny. Today, they’re talking about the ‘boomerang man,’  you know, the guy you chuck but keeps coming back to your door…

At one point or another you have dated a guy who comes in and out of your life. That off and on relationship leads you to scream at the top of your lungs, “What do men want?!”

As a man, I can tell you he has a fear of commitment. Sometimes men just don’t know what they want. He may be into you but not so into you that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Why doesn’t he just say so? Because he’s a coward who rather run than confront the situation head on. Also, sometimes your relationship is on and off due to  bad timing. The chemistry may be great but you’re in different places in life. When a man is ready, he may come knocking on your door – or he’ll probably just text.

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There is another reason why a man comes in and out of a relationship. The relationship is great but you break up due to circumstances beyond your control, like a work move or family drama. There was no betrayal or excessive hurt. The breakup was almost amicable. Time passes and life goes on, and looks who happens to show up? He couldn’t get you out of his mind. He has resolved many of his issues. Do you take him back? If there is true love there and it is reciprocal, sure. Just make sure to tie him to a chair so he never leaves again.

Kidding, of course. But as a woman, how do you deal with a guy who doesn’t stay put? Confront him. If you let a man do whatever he wants in a relationship, he will continue to do so. You have to stand up for yourself and say, “Enough is enough.” Tell him what’s on your mind and how you feel. Now, boys will be boys; he may become evasive. “I don’t know what you’re talking about, sweetie. You know I love you, baby!’ You know the drill. Don’t let his sweet talk fool or soften you. Set boundaries. If he stops calling and texting again, it’s really over.

Bottom line, off and on relationships are emotionally exhausting. You are constantly on edge that your relationship may be over only for him to return again. It’s a vicious cycle that will only end when both men and women are clear about what they want out of a relationship. If you want a commitment, say so. If you want to date other people, say so. If you want to have casual sex with no strings attached, say so! This will save you a lot of time, energy and pondering: where did he go?!

LoveSujeiry.com is the source for all thing love for Latinas and run by Sujeiry, host of LOVE Sujeiry on SiriusXM CH 154.

Do you have a boomerang guy in your life? Tell us @Lovestruck

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