Who hasn’t had a spot of the green-eyed monster before? Jealousy is a pretty normal emotion. However, overcoming jealousy is not so easy.
Things like your partner calling you another name make you mad? Their eyes lingering on your best friend for a second too long or their excitement while talking about a new colleague – all these small things can lead to anger, humiliation, possessiveness and suspicion.
We all get jealous, young and old.
Here are our top tips about how to manage these feelings:
Boost your own self-esteem: Spend some time on your own doing something you enjoy or learning a new skill. Always fancied learning to salsa? Book some lessons. Been meaning to get in touch with an old friend? Do it tonight.
Recognise your good points: Make a list of all the reasons you rock and all the stuff you’ve achieved that makes you a great catch. If you can no longer see this, it makes it pretty hard for your partner to rate you, too.
Ask someone else: An external opinion on the situation can work wonders. Ask a close friend for their advice. Tell them why you are jealous and ask for their honest take on the situation. Often, just by talking about it, will make you realise if you are being irrational.
Change your attitude: So they like to do stuff on their own sometimes? Recognise that it is healthy to have separate interests. If you know your other half has a night out with their friends planned, take the opportunity to make your own plans for a night out.
Learn from the past: If jealousy has been an issue in the past, try to not let that help you make positive changes in your current relationships. Talk to your partner about how you feel and ask for their support. A little reassurance can go a long way to making you feel a whole lot happier.
What do you think Lovestruckers? Any other tips about batting off the green-eyed monster? Tell us @lovestruck
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