Do you ever feel like there are three people in your relationship: You, your partner and their ex? Last week a survey emerged that one in ten people are not over their ex and that it takes on average, one month for every year that a couple are together to move on from a break-up.
According to the study, women take 20 per cent longer than men to get over a serious romance. So how can you tell if a date is completely over their past loves? Follow our simple guide:
They left no time before they started dating again: If your date jumped straight back into the dating game after their break-up without giving themselves time out to get over it, it is likely there is emotional baggage. Experts say that men, in particular, are likely to avoid the grieving process that follows a break-up, even though it can help them move on. While women tend to talk about their emotions more, in general men prefer to bottle things up. If you have started dating someone like this, it doesn’t mean the romance is doomed, it just means they will have to process some of these emotions while they are with you.
They fell for you before they had finished their relationship: In an ideal world, everyone would be single when they fell for someone else but sadly this isn’t always the case. If they cheat on a partner with you, they are more likely to cheat on you. Think very carefully about pursuing the romance.
They obsess over their ex’s social media: If they are always checking their ex’s Twitter or Facebook profile, chances are they haven’t let them go. Discussing the relationship with them will help them let go of their feelings about the break-up.
They talk about them all the time: Is the ex always thrown into the conversation whatever the topic? Whether your partner is talking about the good times or berating the ex for something, talking about an ex, shows they are still on their mind, a lot.
Intuition: Many of us underestimate that gut feeling. If you’re uncomfortable about the prominent role the ex plays in your partner’s life, tell ’em.
Have you been in this situation? Are there other signs your partner isn’t over their ex?
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